Today I have been married for exactly three years and six months. I can't quite believe how quickly it has gone and how much we have achieved as a couple in that space of time. But there are a few things I didn't expect to hear or feel after tying the knot at 21.
1. The different reactions when people find out I'm married - Yeah, I know I look young for my age and yes 21 does 'seem quite young to get married' but when you know, you know. If I had a pound for every time someone has commented on my age and the fact I'm married, I'd be a millionaire. Don't get me wrong, 9 times out of 10 people are really pleased to hear that I'm happily settle down at 'such a young age' but I do get the add comment about not having experienced the world before committing my life to someone. Guess what? You can experience all these things together - which in my opinion makes it twice the fun.
2. Always being expected to have children - Nope, we have no kids. Nor will we be having children in the next 5 minutes. Just because we share the same surname, does not automatically mean we must have babies immediately.
3. Marriage isn't a walk in the park - We lived together for 18 months before we got married and neither of us thought we would feel any different after the wedding, however something just changes. I don't think it helped the fact we moved 120 miles away from our family and friends two months into marriage, but for some reason that piece of paper makes all the difference. Suddenly, we only had each other and sometimes that can be pretty difficult. I think it's fair to say we both enjoy our own space and the first few months were pretty hard. However coming out the other side - a few years on married life is possibly the best thing ever.
4. You will become closer - Again, this may be slightly different if you don't decide to move half way across the country but myself and Mr A are pretty much inseparable when we have time off together. We both work stressful jobs and our shift patterns tend to overlap, meaning the time we do get to spend together is invaluable. It makes you appreciate each other, just that little bit more.
5. The shock that we didn't get married in a church - Neither of us are religious, nor do we go to church. I'm openly an Atheist and for me it would have been hypocritical to get married in a religious building. Instead we opted for a beautiful hotel, with gorgeous grounds and an amazing ball room.
6. Compromise, compromise, compromise - This is something that can get a little of getting used to but me and the hubby have defiantly become experts at compromise. It's natural to not always want the same things, but as long as you talk it out and the big decisions are made as a couple, you will always be happy with the outcome.
7. If it's right, you will have no regrets - I married my best friend. We know each other inside out. We finish each others sentences. We make each other angry at times. But we always, always make each other smile. And looking back, I can't imagine my living my life any differently.