Thursday, 15 January 2015

7 Things They Don't Tell You About Marriage.


Today I have been married for exactly three years and six months. I can't quite believe how quickly it has gone and how much we have achieved as a couple in that space of time. But there are a few things I didn't expect to hear or feel after tying the knot at 21.

1. The different reactions when people find out I'm married -  Yeah, I know I look young for my age and yes 21 does 'seem quite young to get married' but when you know, you know. If I had a pound for every time someone has commented on my age and the fact I'm married, I'd be a millionaire. Don't get me wrong, 9 times out of 10 people are really pleased to hear that I'm happily settle down at 'such a young age' but I do get the add comment about not having experienced the world before committing my life to someone. Guess what? You can experience all these things together - which in my opinion makes it twice the fun.

2. Always being expected to have children - Nope, we have no kids. Nor will we be having children in the next 5 minutes. Just because we share the same surname, does not automatically mean we must have babies immediately. 

3. Marriage isn't a walk in the park - We lived together for 18 months before we got married and neither of us thought we would feel any different after the wedding, however something just changes. I don't think it helped the fact we moved 120 miles away from our family and friends two months into marriage, but for some reason that piece of paper makes all the difference. Suddenly, we only had each other and sometimes that can be pretty difficult. I think it's fair to say we both enjoy our own space and the first few months were pretty hard. However coming out the other side - a few years on married life is possibly the best thing ever.

4. You will become closer - Again, this may be slightly different if you don't decide to move half way across the country but myself and Mr A are pretty much inseparable when we have time off together. We both work stressful jobs and our shift patterns tend to overlap, meaning the time we do get to spend together is invaluable. It makes you appreciate each other, just that little bit more.  

5. The shock that we didn't get married in a church - Neither of us are religious, nor do we go to church. I'm openly an Atheist and for me it would have been hypocritical to get married in a religious building. Instead we opted for a beautiful hotel, with gorgeous grounds and an amazing ball room. 

6. Compromise, compromise, compromise - This is something that can get a little of getting used to but me and the hubby have defiantly become experts at compromise. It's natural to not always want the same things, but as long as you talk it out and the big decisions are made as a couple, you will always be happy with the outcome.

7.  If it's right, you will have no regrets - I married my best friend. We know each other inside out. We finish each others sentences. We make each other angry at times. But we always, always make each other smile. And looking back, I can't imagine my living my life any differently.

Katie xx

12 comments:

  1. Aww, this post is so sweet. I'm very happy for you. Good luck :)

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  2. I totally love this post and glad you wrote it. I am not married (yet) but have been with pete for four years now and would happily get married now, people shouldn't judge via age it's about how you two feel- and you both look gorgeous on your wedding so lovely! But I agree it's definitely not a walk in the park, sometimes it's v difficult xxx

    Blonde Of Carbs

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  3. this is so, so lovely! and that's such nice wedding photo, great post! x

    // The Dress Diaries

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  4. Aw such a lovely post! Your dress is gorgeous :)

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  5. I'm getting married in October, so I really enjoyed this post Katie :)

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  6. Ahh I love this post so much. Don't have babies just yet, I hardly see you as it is haha!!

    Anoushka xx www.Anoushkaloves.com

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  7. I love this post, I'm coming up to 7 years married (I know right!?!) and I too got married young so I know these feelings so well :)
    Rosy
    Sparklesoflight76.blogspot.co.uk

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  8. Aw great post! So lovely that you met each other at a young age! :)

    www.gingerbreadsmiles.co.uk
    xox

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  9. Lovely post! I got married 4 months ago and I'm already fed up of the 'when are you having children?' question... x

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  10. I totally get where you're coming from on all these points, me and Jason have been married for 2.5 years and people have been asking when we're going to have kids for the most part of that. The fact that we seem to be having a bit of 'trouble' in that department makes it a bit of a sore subject and although I know they aren't to know that I don't know why people assume that as soon as a ring is on your finger that you're going to start breeding - such a primitive assumption!

    Jade x
    Girl Up North | UK Lifestyle Blog

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  11. Such a lovely post :) I hate when people judge because of someone's age! Everyone is different! You are 21 and married, one of my friends is 21 with a baby, I am 19 (so not much younger) and putting all my energy into Biochemistry. Everyone tapestry of life is different, so fed up of people judging. Good to hear from you the ups and the downs :) sounds super lovely sweetheart :) xo
    amber love

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  12. Ugh yes, the endless kids questions!!!
    And I know exactly what you mean by suddenly being just the two of you - we also moved across the ocean to the opposite side of the planet only 3 months after getting married.
    But at the end of the day, it's all so worth it! :-)
    Lublyou

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