Being a new mum is tough. It's even harder when you're left alone with your tiny baby, after your partner goes back to work. I knew there was no way I could spent weeks and weeks trapped in the house, so I've made a conscious effort to make sure we have something planned almost everyday.
Before getting pregnant I had zero mummy friends in my local area. So I dragged my hubby to antenatal classes to ensure I had some friends to hang with on maternity leave. Thankfully we've made some lovely friends and baby dates are so much fun.
I've been pushed out of my comfort zone and headed to a few baby groups within walking distance from my house. I turned up a little apprehensive and nervous but we've been welcomed into a group at the community centre and one in the local church hall. There are lots of baby sensory toys and other mums to chat too. Plus they're ran by volunteers, so cost no more than £1.50 and includes unlimited drinks and snacks (usually for the children, but we sneak a few in too!).
We've also signed up to a baby massage course, which is going really well at the moment. I'm learning lots of techniques to help relax Violet as well as helping with reducing her reflux and any colic or constipation she may get. The sessions are so relaxed, if the babies aren't up for it we can just have a cuddle and learn the techniques to try at home.
I've also managed to find a few monthly baby activities too! We headed to HOME in Manchester last week, to a parent and baby screen of Cafe Society. I went along with one of my Hypnobirthing friends and her little boy and it was just lovely.
Our next activity to try is baby yoga, I'm not sure what to expect but the main thing is that I'm getting adult conversation and meeting other mums.
I can't stress how important it is to get out there. It's scary taking a baby out for the first time but once you're out it's fine. And every other mum has been in your situation. I've found the more relaxed I am, the more relaxed Violet is. Plus if I've forgotten anything, I'm never too far from a shop to resolve the situation. Getting out there and meeting new people is brilliant and really important for your baby's development too.
I'd recommend looking for local Facebook groups and checking out NCT website for groups near by. My health visitor provided me with a few groups too, and I've discovered more from talking to other people too.
I've gone from being a nervous new mum to feeling confident and looking forward to our baby dates each week!
Have you found any local baby groups? Come say hi to me on Twitter, I love making new mummy friends!